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Working Through Trauma
Working Through Trauma
Trauma isn’t wildly uncommon. The majority of us experience trauma at least once in our lives. What do we do with that trauma? How do we work through it? Trauma can be debilitating so it’s important to be connected to yourself so you may grow from trauma rather than it growing within, and wreaking havoc on your mind and body. In “The Body Keeps Score” by Bessel van der Kolk M.D., he talks about how trauma rewires the brain, “specifically in areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust”.
Trauma isn’t wildly uncommon. The majority of us experience trauma at least once in our lives. What do we do with that trauma? How do we work through it? Trauma can be debilitating so it’s important to be connected to yourself so you may grow from trauma rather than it growing within, and wreaking havoc on your mind and body. In “The Body Keeps Score” by Bessel van der Kolk M.D., he talks about how trauma rewires the brain, “specifically in areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust”.
When was the last time you took a moment to think about the things you struggle with inside of your relationships, at home, in the office, or with strangers? Are you able to enjoy intimacy? Are you able to stay engaged in communication, or do you drift off? Do you have the need to be in control of every detail, and struggle to let go? How easy is it for you to trust, and what do you need in order to trust someone. Once we are able to pinpoint where we may need support, the reason for that struggle usually comes to light more rapidly. Working through that is the next step. That can be overwhelming but you don’t have to and shouldn’t do it alone.
When was the last time you took a moment to think about the things you struggle with inside of your relationships, at home, in the office, or with strangers? Are you able to enjoy intimacy? Are you able to stay engaged in communication, or do you drift off? Do you have the need to be in control of every detail, and struggle to let go? How easy is it for you to trust, and what do you need in order to trust someone. Once we are able to pinpoint where we may need support, the reason for that struggle usually comes to light more rapidly. Working through that is the next step. That can be overwhelming but you don’t have to and shouldn’t do it alone.
In order to love those around us in the way that they deserve, the work has to start from within. Often that re-wiring is what holds us back from discovering ourselves and becoming all that we are meant to be. It breeds negativity within our minds and holds us back from experiencing life in a way we could never imagine.
In order to love those around us in the way that they deserve, the work has to start from within. Often that re-wiring is what holds us back from discovering ourselves and becoming all that we are meant to be. It breeds negativity within our minds and holds us back from experiencing life in a way we could never imagine.
I’ve created a 90 day Metamorphosis program that allows you to begin connecting with yourself. It allows you to define your goals, make a game plan to make them happen and put it into action. We work through grief and learn skills that can be used in the future. We learn to give space for imperfection and how to connect with your inner child. We work on slowing down, mindfulness and the idea that laziness doesn’t exist. (Laziness Does Not Exist – Devon Price Ph. D.) We empower ourselves with constant reminders that small hinges swing big doors and 1% better every day is all we need to aim for. (Atomic Habits – James Clear)
I’ve created a 90 day Metamorphosis program that allows you to begin connecting with yourself. It allows you to define your goals, make a game plan to make them happen and put it into action. We work through grief and learn skills that can be used in the future. We learn to give space for imperfection and how to connect with your inner child. We work on slowing down, mindfulness and the idea that laziness doesn’t exist. (Laziness Does Not Exist – Devon Price Ph. D.) We empower ourselves with constant reminders that small hinges swing big doors and 1% better every day is all we need to aim for. (Atomic Habits – James Clear)
What has been holding you back from the goals that you want to achieve? Maybe you don’t know what your next step is. Are you stuck in a cycle of grief? Is chronic pain or illness holding you back? Do you want to break generational habits so you don’t pass them on, and or fall in the trap of reliving them within yourself? Maybe you want to get your health and lifestyle back on track and you’re ready to make a change.
What has been holding you back from the goals that you want to achieve? Maybe you don’t know what your next step is. Are you stuck in a cycle of grief? Is chronic pain or illness holding you back? Do you want to break generational habits so you don’t pass them on, and or fall in the trap of reliving them within yourself? Maybe you want to get your health and lifestyle back on track and you’re ready to make a change.
If this sounds like you, I am here and ready to help.
If this sounds like you, I am here and ready to help.
You don’t have to stay there. In that place that’s holding you back. Sometimes we just need a soft place to land, insight, and encouragement to take flight again. I hope to be that for you. I look forward to sitting with you in the mush, inside your cocoon while you grow. The part I look forward to the most, yet it’s so bitter sweet, is to watch you fly away the greatest version of yourself.
You don’t have to stay there. In that place that’s holding you back. Sometimes we just need a soft place to land, insight, and encouragement to take flight again. I hope to be that for you. I look forward to sitting with you in the mush, inside your cocoon while you grow. The part I look forward to the most, yet it’s so bitter sweet, is to watch you fly away the greatest version of yourself.
With Love and Outstretched Wings,
Brittney Del Muro (Coach B.)
With Love and Outstretched Wings,
Brittney Del Muro (Coach B.)
FEAR
What is fear, and how is it holding you back?
What is fear, and how is it holding you back?
As I sit here and write this I have my own set of fears flooding my once calm mind. Will what I have to say mean anything to anyone? Am I wasting my time and their time? We live in a world full of people who struggle with ailments such as imposter syndrome because we are constantly told “no, you can’t” in some form or another. It has been engraved in our brains since we were children. In the book “WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU TALK TO YOURSELF”, Shad Helmstetter, PHD, speaks on how we learn our “programing”, as he calls it, from the people around us. What is most fascinating to me however is that we pass that programming on to the people around us, including the children around us. Not limited to our own children. We have to unlearn that programming in order to not instill it in others. The programming we gained as children and young adults is not our fault, what we decide to do with that programming is our responsibility. (Scary thought huh? Even more scary in my opinion was always to think I had to figure it out on my own.) In addition I found it interesting; even the most loving, nurturing parents have told their children things that I never would have thought could affect the brain so negatively. Dr. Helmstetter gives examples such as “You’re just like your father!”, “You just don’t try.”, “Your grades are atrocious.”, “You talk too much.”, “You’re lazy.” all being “bad programing”. These are often innocently spoken to a child that does need direction. In return this ultimately causes them to believe they can’t in so many aspects of life, often unable to feel confident in themselves and their own decision making. Identity becomes harder and harder to define and they believe they can’t improve the “bad programming” they/we get.
As I sit here and write this I have my own set of fears flooding my once calm mind. Will what I have to say mean anything to anyone? Am I wasting my time and their time? We live in a world full of people who struggle with ailments such as imposter syndrome because we are constantly told “no, you can’t” in some form or another. It has been engraved in our brains since we were children. In the book “WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU TALK TO YOURSELF”, Shad Helmstetter, PHD, speaks on how we learn our “programing”, as he calls it, from the people around us. What is most fascinating to me however is that we pass that programming on to the people around us, including the children around us. Not limited to our own children. We have to unlearn that programming in order to not instill it in others. The programming we gained as children and young adults is not our fault, what we decide to do with that programming is our responsibility. (Scary thought huh? Even more scary in my opinion was always to think I had to figure it out on my own.) In addition I found it interesting; even the most loving, nurturing parents have told their children things that I never would have thought could affect the brain so negatively. Dr. Helmstetter gives examples such as “You’re just like your father!”, “You just don’t try.”, “Your grades are atrocious.”, “You talk too much.”, “You’re lazy.” all being “bad programing”. These are often innocently spoken to a child that does need direction. In return this ultimately causes them to believe they can’t in so many aspects of life, often unable to feel confident in themselves and their own decision making. Identity becomes harder and harder to define and they believe they can’t improve the “bad programming” they/we get.
What things are you saying to yourself?
What things are you saying to yourself?
What things are you saying to those around you?
What things are you saying to those around you?
What are the things people are saying to you?
What are the things people are saying to you?
What types of influences are you watching on TV, in movies?
What types of influences are you watching on TV, in movies?
What types of influences do you have on social media giving you bad programing?
What types of influences do you have on social media giving you bad programing?
I’ve spent the last decade working on my programming, physical and mental health. I am excited to announce that I’ll soon be working with clients as a certified life and health coach to help them do the same. In the coming weeks and months I am looking forward to sharing with you some of my experience(s), some of the references I have found helpful, action items and or skills I find most helpful. If there is anything you would like me to touch on, or if you have any questions you’d like me to cover shoot them my way! I hope to create a safe space where growth, direction and healing are the goal. No caterpillars’ journey is linear to get to the point of that first flight. It takes hard work, determination, faith in something greater than ourselves and a solid plan. With Chrysalis to Wings Coaching, I would like to hang with you while you grow your wings, and celebrate with you; as you fly away the greatest version of yourself.
I’ve spent the last decade working on my programming, physical and mental health. I am excited to announce that I’ll soon be working with clients as a certified life and health coach to help them do the same. In the coming weeks and months I am looking forward to sharing with you some of my experience(s), some of the references I have found helpful, action items and or skills I find most helpful. If there is anything you would like me to touch on, or if you have any questions you’d like me to cover shoot them my way! I hope to create a safe space where growth, direction and healing are the goal. No caterpillars’ journey is linear to get to the point of that first flight. It takes hard work, determination, faith in something greater than ourselves and a solid plan. With Chrysalis to Wings Coaching, I would like to hang with you while you grow your wings, and celebrate with you; as you fly away the greatest version of yourself.
With love and outstretched wings,
With love and outstretched wings,
Brittney Del Muro (Coach B.)
Brittney Del Muro (Coach B.)
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